Tribute to Welling's Billy Payne - love, struggle and advocacy

This article contains references to suicide

Billy tragically passed away on November 6, 2024, at 39 years old.

Billy, born in Greenwich on August 2, 1985, was not just my brother but a father-like figure throughout my life.

(Image: Holly Brencher)

He was 18 years old when I was born, and from that moment on, he was always there for me, guiding me, and looking out for me in ways only a big brother could.

He was the kind of person who could light up a room with his infectious smile and big, cheeky grin.

Billy was well-known in the Welling and Plumstead areas and he built lasting relationships with everyone he met, always taking the time to talk to anyone, no matter the time of day.

He was a familiar face, knocking on doors with his ladders in hand, cleaning windows for his neighbours.

Freddie, Mum and Billy (Image: Holly Brencher) (Image: Holly Brencher)

He had an unmatched work ethic, but it was his kindness and warmth that left the biggest mark on the people around him.

Growing up, Billy was always there for me—taking me out to help me with everything.

He was my rock, my protector, and my best friend.

He will be forever missed by me, my mum, our older brother Fred, and especially by his four-year-old son, who will never know his father in the way we did.

(Image: Holly Brencher)

Billy struggled deeply with mental health issues, which sometimes got him into trouble with the law.

These mental health problems led Billy to be consumed by addiction.

He was failed by a system that should have supported him better - doctors, police officers, paramedics and lastly the prison system.

Billy took his own life while on remand awaiting a court date.

He had been in prison for five days with no-one to talk to - just the four walls of his cell. 

Billy, a beloved son, brother, and father whose kindness and spirit live on (Image: Holly Brencher)

His tragic passing has inspired me to speak out and raise awareness for people like him who didn’t receive the care and attention they so desperately needed.

I have a platform through my job, and I promise to use it to help shed light on the struggles of mental health, in the hopes of preventing another life from being lost like Billy’s.

While nothing will bring him back, I am grateful for the time we had together and the chance to honour him by continuing his legacy of kindness and support.

(Image: Holly Brencher)

I also want to share that there is a GoFundMe page set up for Billy’s son.

Donations will go into an ISA for his son, which he will receive on his 21st birthday as a gift from his dad.

If you would like to contribute, you can do so here. 

Billy, my brother, you are loved beyond words, and you will be deeply missed.

I promise to fight for justice in your name and work to ensure that no one else must face the struggles you did without the help they need.

Mental Health and Suicide Prevention Support

If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to these resources for support:

Samaritans: 116 123 (Available 24/7)

Mind: 0300 123 3393

London Lifeline: 0808 808 1677

You are not alone, and help is available.

Rest in peace, Billy. You’ll always be with us.