Would you know the warning signs of being in an emotionally abusive relationship?
Women’s Aid, a leading domestic abuse charity, is warning people of the “clear warning signs” after a fraught episode of Love Island.
Katie Ghose, chief executive of Women’s Aid, said people need to "recognise unhealthy behaviour in relationships" after a backlash over contestant Adam’s behaviour.
She said the way he responded when Rosie Williams cried as she told him he had hurt her by moving on with Zara McDermott, was concerning.
The charity is urging people to call out unacceptable behaviour and to recognize emotional abuse.
Katie said: “In a relationship, a partner questioning your memory of events, trivialising your thoughts or feelings, and turning things around to blame you can be part of pattern of gaslighting and emotional abuse.”
Gaslighting is seen as being "to manipulate someone by psychological means into doubting their own sanity".
If you or someone you know is experiencing abuse in a relationship, call the freephone 24/7 National Domestic Violence Helpline, run by Women’s Aid in partnership with Refuge, on 0808 2000 247 or visit www.womensaid.org.uk.
Although every situation is different, there are some common factors to look out for:
Destructive criticism and verbal abuse: Shouting; mocking; accusing; name calling; verbally threatening.
Pressure tactics: sulking; Threatening to withhold money, disconnecting the phone and internet, taking away or destroying your mobile, tablet or laptop. Etc.
Disrespect: Persistently putting you down in front of other people; not listening or responding when you talk.
Breaking trust: Lying to you; withholding information from you; being jealous; having other relationships; breaking promises and shared agreements.
Isolation: Monitoring or blocking your phone calls, e-mails and social media accounts, telling you where you can and cannot go; preventing you from seeing friends and relatives; shutting you in the house.
Denial: Saying the abuse doesn’t happen; saying you caused the abuse; saying you wind him up; saying he can’t control his anger; being publicly gentle and patient; crying and begging for forgiveness; saying it will never happen again.
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